I came across a dead end during my run this morning which made me think… (and create content… of course!)
As a coach I now pay very close attention to what is going on around me.
What people do.
What people say.
How people behave.
How people react/respond.
I also pay attention to the energy, frequency & vibration of other beings.
Human behaviour & psychology fascinates me more than anything.
Well let’s just say LIFE on all levels & dimensions fascinates me to my core!
One thing that I have observed is that so many people throw their toys out of the pram when they come across a dead end in life.
They label themselves a ‘FAILURE’.
They stop trying.
They say ‘it didn’t work’.
They give up and give in, swiping their goals and mission under the carpet.
In a weight loss challenge.
In whatever else we want to put on this list!
Let’s take one step back –
WHAT EVEN IS FAILURE?
How do you choose to perceive it?
Are you clear on what it actually means to you?
So many seem to think that failure means GAME OVER.
Yes that’s indeed their reality if they choose to perceive it that way.
If you can resonate with this mindset, then could you be open minded to another way of thinking that would serve you better?
I was once caught up in a very similar mindset.
It really wasn’t serving me.
So I chose to change my perception & beliefs.
Many people now tell me –
“wow you seem to be so successful, you are doing so well”
May I give you some insight into my new way of thinking that serves me a lot better, and continues to give me results in all areas of life?
Here’s what I have to say:
Yes, I am doing a hell of a lot better than I was a year ago, 2 years ago, 3 years ago. I have grown a lot.
I am not even close to where I want to be. But I keep doing the work daily.
I have clear goals of where I want to be and go. I focus on my goals daily and set new goals when I achieve my current ones. Having no goals makes me feel directionless and like I’m not going anywhere in life.
I take aligned action, daily. This is so freaking important! There is a difference between action & aligned action. I wrote a whole blog about this topic a week ago!
My life is not a smooth road. It looks more like yours! I have ups and downs, just like you! I have challenging moments and some days I feel like nothing is going “right”, just like you!
I come across dead ends (‘failures’ if you want to call them that), more than you can even imagine!). They are part of life! I don’t see dead ends as ‘failures’, I see them as ‘FEEDBACK’ or ‘TRY AGAIN’.
Oh you bet I will try again! I will try until it works! I will find a way no matter what, and no matter how long it takes! It looks something like this:
Plan A –
Dead End: Try Again.
Plan B –
Dead End: Here’s some feedback.
Plan C –
Dead End: Find another way.
Plan D –
Dead End: Look for another solution.
Plan E –
Dead End: This doesn’t feel right so I choose another way.
Plan F –
Dead End: That was close! But not quite!
Plan G –
Dead End: Nope, still not it. But keep trying!
I have re-wired my brain into a state to believe
‘I ALWAYS GET WHAT I WANT BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT I CAN’.
But I don’t sit around and twiddle my thumbs waiting to receive something without taking aligned action.
I will even use the the letters in the Finnish alphabet if I need to!
Because you bet I will create
a #PlanÄ, a #PlanÅ and a #PlanÖ if I feel the need to!
I ALWAYS DO MY BEST.
And gorgeous want to know a secret? My best looks different every day. Some days my best is massive flow, not stopping for 16 hours straight, creating loads of content and getting everything done of my to-do list.
Other days my best is doing ‘just something’. I may also have a nap. I may shift my focus into resting, healing and nurturing instead, as that is exactly what my body needs.
Do you still think that some people (the people you may put on a pedestal) just climbed their way to the top of the success ladder without any challenges & dead ends?
SO OFTEN WE SEE THE GLORY, BUT NOT THE STORY.
I challenge you to go ask ANYONE you aspire to be like, what their road to success looked like? (And let’s not forget that the definition of success means different things to all of us).
I will bet they will respond with:
– Numerous dead ends
– Questioning themselves
– Battles with self-worth
– Negativity from others
I could go on and on, adding 300 different challenges and emotions they may have experienced along the way.
Gorgeous you and I are no different.
We will continue to ride this wave of life.
But achieving our desired outcomes are entirely up to us as an individual.
Ask yourself –
HOW BAD DO YOU REALLY WANT IT?
That dream house
That financial freedom
That location-free lifestyle
That that body of your dreams
That next rank in your NWM business
That ‘stay at home’ lifestyle with your kids
A DEAD END IN LIFE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU FAILED.
Find another way gorgeous.
I love you!
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